I want to share with you a real-life story. It was a life-changing moment for me to overcome one of my greatest fear of failure on something I dare not do for many years. I’m sure everyone has something which you wanted to achieve but has not taken any action doing it for whatever reason. After reading this, you will definitely be able to open your thoughts on How To Overcome Your Fear Of Failure In Life.
It was a hot sunny day. I had decided to go for a swim. I have not been swimming coming close to a year. I reached the swimming pool and change into my swimming trunks. I did some warmup stretching and getting ready for my swim.
Once into the water, I started using my usual comfortable frog style method and started swimming continuously for a couple of lapses. While I was resting, my subconscious mind awakens me on something which was deep in my mind for a very very long time. I had never ever used the freestyle method in any of the swimming session ever since I learned how to swim both styles during the age of 9 years old.
The Comfort Zone
I was always having that inner fear inside me which keeps telling myself that freestyle is dangerous and hard. And I maybe looked down by other people if I didn’t swim the right way. I will become very Bo Sey (Singlish of losing face) in front of people. I was concerned that I may get a cramp in my leg and I will drown in the pool and die. In my mind, there are 101 excuses for me enough to justify that freestyle was not for me.
The lack of courage and confidence has restricted me in overcoming my fear of failure to even start.
I was being in my comfort zone and not ready to take that first step out even though there were a couple of times I did attempt to try but it lasted only a couple of minutes and eventually I gave up.
To Overcome Fear, Start by Getting Out Of Your Own Comfort Zone. Remember It Is About You, Not Others.
Having An End In Mind
At that moment while I was at the pool, I had a very clear mind of what I wanted to achieve at the end of the swimming session. I want to overcome my fear over the past 20 years of my life. I wanted to master freestyle method and use it to complete one full lapse.
Having that end in mind, I then derived a strategy of changing between frog style and then convert to freestyle midway to complete the rest of the distance. By doing this I could reduce the risk of any unforeseen situation since it is my first attempt and the middle of the pool is the deepest.
Having An End In Mind And You Will Uncover The Strategy. Then Execute It.
So I started swimming. After I pass about half the pool I started to switch to my uncomfortable freestyle. At first, it took me some time to get hold of the hands and legs coordination. Although I feel kind of weird, I did not think about how people think about me. At that moment, all I wanted to do was to swim as fast as I could to reach the other end.
I had successfully completed the remaining laps in my first attempt. The feeling was special. It gave me a huge boost in confidence.
If You Seek To Change, Start By Getting Uncomfortable.
I proceed to continue using the same strategy of switching between frog style, freestyle and repeated for another 4 laps in order to better familiarise myself. Although I drank more pool water than before. I can also feel my hands and legs were more tired. I was breathing harder.
Concurrently I also felt that I was able to better coordinate my hand, legs and body movement. I was also swimming faster. And as I keep repeating the steps, I found myself getting more comfortable and better accustomed to the freestyle of swimming as times went by.
A repetition Is A Form Of Change And It Creates New Habits.
While I was resting to take my breath for the next lapse, I have this thought in my mind. If I want to get better, why not I watch and observe the other swimmers how their hand stroke, how they kick their legs and their body movement.
After observing for a while I saw a similarity. The hand stroke was going into the water in an inverted V moves. Once one hand went into the water, the other hand will start to push through the water. Their legs were more relaxed and not kicking vigorously. unlike me who was struggling to keep my leg afloat while kicking. It took me a while to discover one important aspect of freestyle, it is actually more about the movement of the hands than the kicks. I remember top swimmers like Joseph Schooling and Michael Phelps, both of them have similar V-upper body feature.
After I had completed a couple more laps, I decided to start the challenge I had plan initially.
I am going to go freestyle all the way for the last laps.
Success Leaves Clue. Observe And Role Model People Who Have Been There. You Will find The Solution You seek For.
I had never thought that I could complete the first lapse so easily.
So I decided to proceed for another lapse to push myself. By the time I reach the midway point I start to feel breathless. I continued to keep pushing myself forward and upon the last 20m, I couldn’t breathe. I had to switch back to frog style to complete the last laps.
I was not able to complete the 2nd laps due to the fact that I got too impatient with not catching my breath first before proceeding. Had I been more patient, I would have completed it.
If You Seek To Push Beyond Your Limits, Patience Is The catalyst.
Below are the 6 Main Key points I am going to leave you with to help you to overcome your fear of failure.
1. To Overcome Fear, Start by Getting Out Of Your Own Comfort Zone. Remember It Is About You, Not Others.
2. Having An End In Mind First And You Will Uncover The Strategy. Then Execute It.
3. If You Seek To Change, Start By Getting Uncomfortable.
4. Repetition Is A Form Of Change And It Creates New Habits.
5. Success Leaves Clue. Observe And Role Model People Who Have Been There. You Will find The Solution You seek For.
6. If You Seek To Push Beyond Your Limits, Patience Is The catalyst.
I have been consistently been searching for content on how to overcome your fear of failure. But most of them only provide the theory and not the real-life experiences. This is why I wanted to share with you all my true story of me overcoming my personal fear which was instilled within me for a very long time.
Do you also have the similar experiences on how you have overcome your fear as well?
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